Photo courtesy of faridfoto Blogger Que Sera Sera wrote:
"Anyway, I felt somewhat relieved after having a chat with a friend last night. Odd that I’ve described it as such because subconsciously, I didn’t realize I felt that “suffocated” until I had that conversation.. One thing that I thought was interesting was how she tried to comfort me by sharing that in all likelihood, many couples may not have found their ideal partner, supposedly, that one that you can talk to, pretty much just about anything from things at work to plain nothing, one that you can share your silly jokes, one who showers you with all that affection that you long for… She adds that it is indeed ok to have found these in several different individuals (as long as we know our boundaries) and still have your partner as who he or she is… As I ponder on it longer today, that may be true as after all, life is never fair, and ideal is a relative term..Does that mean I will just succumb to the situation and deal with it, or continue the search for that ideal partner at an expense?... "
I guess we will never truly find an 'ideal' partner. Being human, our insatiable craving for the ideal and perfection will inevitably lead to desperation and frustration.
The choice to live with the 'less than the ideal' or seek 'near perfection' would entirely be dependent on each individual's tolerance and fortitude.
It's a difficult choice to make. Either way, the options are indeed, at an expense......
2 comments:
Well, I think The One is just too over-rated and over-romanticise in books and movies. There are many "The Ones" during the different periods of our lives. Well like the song "Lucky" by Colbie Callait and Jason Mraz, we would indeed be very lucky if we're in love with our best frens but unfortunately thats not always the case. Love shud be a by product of compatibility and not the other way around for and enduring relationship...Tats my view anyway
(Some)People changed and there's nothing anybody can do about it. But when you're with someone, appreciate them. If there's no more love, let them know. It's not fair when you're the only one getting the love when you know you can't give the same to them.
Love, happiness and 'the ideal one' can't be found if you keep looking for something 'better'. For all you know you already have/had them but are/were just too busy 'looking' that you didn't realise they slipped away.
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